5 million and 21 tasks
Posted on May 6th, 2009.Today was one of those days. One of those days that I have at least once or twice a week. One of those days where I reach my limit and I feel like I’m at the top of Mt. Everest about to take a nose dive off! Or like I’m a grenade about to explode. Or really like I’m human realizing my great need for my Savior! I have a lot on my plate. I’m a wife with four small kids, one of which thinks she needs to eat every two hours during the day, a part-time job, a full-time job as a Mommy and wife, bills to pay, an ongoing search for money to pay the bills, family to care for, friends to love, laundry, dishes, children that want to eat all the freakin time, and the list goes on and on. Today I had too many things coming at me at once and I realized that I can’t do 5 million and 21 tasks at once. Afterall, I am only human. It’s funny because I have been trying to figure it out all week how all the other “Mommies” out there do it. I read about and talk to all these other women that seemingly have it “together”. They spend their days doing fun creative art projects with their perfectly behaved children and somehow have the time to do the laundry, pay the bills, buy the groceries, clean the house, blog, read other blogs, cook all natural homemade everything, be involved in activities and run a small business from home. WHAT?? Am I that disorganized or what? I can’t fit it all in. Maybe it’s because I only have an hour and a half between feedings to get anything done and I wake up twice a night to feed my cherub again. Or maybe it’s because I waste my time doing things like in the post below! Or maybe there is some secret to all of this I need to know about! And please don’t misunderstand and think I’m knocking these women that have it all together. No. I truly admire them and want to learn how to do it all too! So, if anyone has any suggestions or a “Wife and Mommy for Dummies” book I could borrow please send it my way. Seriously, would love your feedback if you’ve found the key! And while I’m asking for suggestions. . . I really am going to try and blog more on a regular basis. If anyone has any topic suggestions I would love to hear those too! And sometimes I wonder, does anyone read this? So if you do could you just leave a comment and say hello? I’m apparently having a self-esteem issue tonight. Only kidding. But it is fun to see who you’re talking to! Ok, I’m going to stop asking you to do things and go to bed. Well, one more thing. . . did you notice like I did the excessive use of the word “or” in this post? Peace out peeps!
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I can relate! Sometimes I don’t feel like I can take on 5 tasks let alone 5 million and 19. There does seem to be some Mommies that appear to have everything totally in line. I am not one of them. I think it is good that we can admit that we are not all together all the time. We just need to let go and let God!
I love your blog. I am just starting to get into reading a few blogs lately but I am just not creative enough to write my own. Maybe in time. I do enjoy hearing about the stories of your precious children! Keep it up!!
Blessings!
Carrie
Hey, I read your blog and think it’s super! I’m sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed. We’ve all been there, are there right now, or we’ll be joining you very soon. Hang in there…
Hey there, Just wanted to let you know this is about the only blog I read on a regular basis. And I know Melissa feels the same way, but it will all be ok. Just remember this, Bill loves you more than you can imagine. Your children adore you. That doesn’t change if the living room isn’t picked up or the family has left overs for dinner. I think Mommies expect to much of themselves, and you don’t need to. I’d be willing to bet Bill didn’t fall in love with you because of your laundry abilities.
I’m right there with you, my friend!!! I only have one non-mobile child, and still can’t find the time I need to get other things done…I can’t imagine having 4! I consider it a productive day if I manage to shower and brush my teeth. If someone gives you the great secret, or finds the Mommy Book For Dummies…please do be a friend and pass it on to me. =) Love ya!
You sound like me! My husband to is a contractor just starting out, very scary. We have 3 little girls. I love your nursery. My youngest her room is pink and black, love it! Saw your prayers request on Mckmama. Praying for you in these times. Coming from the same boat I know how it is. hang in there God is amazing and has great things in store for his children. Love the blog!
Hey – If you feel life is crazy, please take a little tour of the Walker house. You would feel right at home and if you meet super mom, please introduce her to me.
I think you are awesome! Love ya,
s
I’m just a wife and dog owner and I can’t seem to get my act together. You have my sympathy.
With four kids (including 3 boys) you’ve got plenty of material. But sometimes it’s tricky going from “this is my life” to “this is something interesting to write about.” I have that problem, too. I went to the presidential inauguration, for crying out loud, and I couldn’t manage to put together a blog post about it.
Dooce.com might help you come up with some ideas. But you’ll have to forgive the plethora of f-bombs.
I think we all feel the same way, I know I do. Even if it might look like I have things together, it’s usually only for a day or a few hours! Most of the time I’m struggling, just getting by and I only have one daughter, 16 months old. There are days when I just turn on the TV and we just sit because I can’t do any more. Hang in there!
One other thing:
Short posts can still be good posts! Sometimes I want to write a “here’s what I did this weekend” post, but other times a quick “I was gone this weekend and my husband told me that he missed me the most when the dog pooped in the house and he had to clean it up himself” post is just as good.
Also, I LOVE to see pictures on blogs! If you don’t feel like you can write, post a pic you have taken recently and write a short caption.
Also, take it easy on yourself. If you have to not blog for a while because you are busy living your life, that is perfectly legitimate.
Apparently it has been too long since someone asked me for advice, because, uh…, I was dying to share.
I think you know already I read your blog religiously and laugh OUT loud every time, so unlike Martha. But I do. As for having it all together, who does? I don’t. But I do limit my life so I can manage the littles and right now, even withOUT a newborn, I find myself thinking just what you said, like do you really need to eat AGAIN?? Oh yeah, that was two hours ago! And that’s kids who are walking and talking. And no outside activities at Martha’s house. You wanna play soccer? Go in the backyard and kick the ball. .Voila! You are now a soccer player! Does that make me a bad mom??? Well, no, just doing what my family can afford both in time and money. Nobody does it ALL. You know that right?? Being a mother is overwhelming. Add ANYTHING else to the mix (aka stress, job issues, money, sick kids) and even the most sane and peaceful will go toppling over the edge, engorged milk ducts first!! I seriously take the first 6 months with a new baby OFF. No computer, sandwiches all around, and just the basic cleaning and laundry for survival. It takes awhile to integrate life with another person, couple that with sleep deprivation and it is truly a recipe for disaster. Ask my friends. The peals of joy and laughter when Martha comes back after having a baby can be heard around the world!!! It takes awhile…cut yourself some slack and then call Amy and have her come twice a week
Let me just tell you i think you have it all together just fine! You ALWAYS look amazing, your kids are always so cute and dressed to perfection, your house both times i have been there is very well put togehter, you have a BEAUTIFUL family, and most importantly you happy and healthy and have a ton of people that love you! You are amazing!!!!
I read your blog…couldn’t live without it!!!
Makes me laugh and is a great source of birth control…along with the fact that I don’t do anything to result in children. At any rate…when you blog about your family, it gives me hope that I, too, can and will be a cool mom/wife when I grow up! haha!! Love you girl!
Okay, okay, I will tell you my secret…..I have 2 teens that slave away and do most of the housework and I have someone deep clean once a month. Rick cooks dinner 3-4 times a week. All my kids are able to dress themselves and at least know how to fix a bowl of cereal. Ok, I feel better after confessing all that.
OMG! I love reading your blogs! It’s one of the few things that keeps me laughing these days! My kids and I always get together and ask each other if they had a chance to read what you wrote about. You keep us in stitches.
We love reading these, we love your family and we love you!!!
Paul and I love to read your blog – we will laugh together at it – keep writing – we love your perspective and personally I think the perfect mom is unbiblical and realizing you are not perfect is the only place to be
So I thought I better fess up and tell you my secrets of how I maintain a perfectly ordered home, 4 beautiful children, and hot gourmet meals every day for my man… just close your eyes(you’ll probably need to plug your ears too) and dream that you are June Cleaver(though she only had 2 kids to deal with and notice they never showed her with preschoolers) or Martha Stewart or whoever you choose. But don’t open your eyes or even unplug your ears or your perfection will be shattered to utter chaos and you won’t even be able to find your kids in all the mess let alone the oven for tonight’s dinner.